In life many people strive for perfection. There is an image of a perfection that seems completely unobtainable. Guess what, it is unobtainable. I am now a mom of three under five, in my thirties, and there are just so many damns I do not give. Damn not given #1: Toxic relationships: Growing up I … Continue reading Giving Up on Giving a Damn
Marriage takes a toll on a relationship. That statement seems ridiculous but everyone knows it’s true. The monotony of finances, chores, and general adulthood erodes the spontaneity and sexiness that once defined you as a couple. As the years wear on the beautiful sculpture of your marriage is chiseled to raw and rough stone. Once … Continue reading Marriage requires maintenance if it’s going to last.
I have never been a person who sought out being a member of a peer group. I identify as an extrovert loner (shut up, that's a thing). Every aspect of the nursing profession has challenged my typical social position. Once I entered nursing school I was forced into becoming a member of a very elite … Continue reading The Nursing Club: Trial by fire.
It was a soft Sunday afternoon when my 3 year old was napping and the Wisconsin summer sun seemed extra warm. Not harsh, just warm. There was a breeze that was so perfect. It was the breeze you only ever read about in a book, never really experiencing (or remembering) the perfection of what the … Continue reading A little gardening saved me.
Another round of no makeup selfies has begun. Women of social media have been posting photos with the tag #nomakeup in droves. The posts garner plenty of attention and seem to fulfill one need or another. There is always an excuse as to why it is vitally important for these selfies to be shared. Awareness, … Continue reading If you are going to take a “No Makeup Selfie” take off your damn makeup.
Divorce is painful. At times it is needed. The pain of losing that relationship is unimaginable. By no means am I minimizing the loss the actual participants of the marriage are experiencing. But there are other casualties to divorce. Friend relationships are severed in the process. Being that friend that is cut due to divorce … Continue reading Losing a friend to their divorce.
There are people you meet in life that you simply have an instant connection with. Certain vibes click and your impression of that person is solidified. Typically people talk about this connection as a positive one but the negative is just as prevalent. Sometimes you meet someone that you simply detest. They have not done … Continue reading Instant dislike: Just admit it’s a thing.
Every marriage has its high and low points but there are some things that just get forgiven and forgotten. Arguments Living in close quarters with another human is hard. Add kids to the mix and it gets messy fast. Now add a full time job or two (most likely two). Yeah, now we have a … Continue reading Things a Stable Marriage Forgives
We're supposed to be honest. We're also supposed to be nice. Here lies a real dilemma. Many times honesty is not nice. So we find ourselves stuck in a bizarre limbo between what we say and what we actually want to say. For example... Parenting advice: Parenting advice is frequently unsolicited. Unwanted and unneeded advice … Continue reading When you are only honest in your head: Mental replies versus reality.
I have experienced times in my parenting life that I have been asked to let "all my friends know" about whatever event or another. At these points I typically just stare off into a distance and look dumbfounded. Most notably my Tired Not Dead partner recently asked me to invite "my people" to a Tired … Continue reading The Social Isolation of Motherhood: The transition from social butterfly to diapers.