When bad things happen, pay attention to who shows up.

There is a famous Mr. Rogers quote that has always stuck in my head. When discussing scary events with his mother she advised him to “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” This quote has been running through my mind since my kids and I experienced a serious car accident … Continue reading When bad things happen, pay attention to who shows up.

Bandwagon feminism can make you a hypocrite.

Making fun of a a woman for her fashion choice is not feminism. Let's start out with some basics. Definitions are important because in many situations definitions are tailored to fit the needs of the agenda being pushed. Feminism as defined by Merriam-Webster:1: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes 2: … Continue reading Bandwagon feminism can make you a hypocrite.

Trying to express emotion when you’ve lived life emotionally controlled. A story of a failed attempt at opening up.

Emotions have always been carefully controlled in my life. Growing up I was told not to be upset when bad things happened. This did not eliminate the issue I was facing but facilitated a pattern of suppressing what I was feeling and only revealing levels of emotional expression that would be considered acceptable. As with … Continue reading Trying to express emotion when you’ve lived life emotionally controlled. A story of a failed attempt at opening up.

There is no need to be a complete twatwaffle.

This is my callout to all the unaware (or maybe aware but until now not so caring) twatwaffles of the world. Knock it off. Collaborate with the women around you. Hold in the passive- aggressive bullshit. Listen to someone else. Genuinely connect. It's amazing how far not acting like a twatwaffle can get you.

Giving Up on Giving a Damn

In life many people strive for perfection. There is an image of a perfection that seems completely unobtainable. Guess what, it is unobtainable. I am now a mom of three under five, in my thirties, and there are just so many damns I do not give. Damn not given #1: Toxic relationships: Growing up I … Continue reading Giving Up on Giving a Damn

5 truths of a sick mom.

You're sick. Not the sniffles but full-blown sinus pressure, nausea, body aches, weird drainage, can't think, can't breathe, fever, coughing, sore throat, full-blown exhaustion kind of sick. Basically, you've become a walking receptacle for all germs and your poor immune system is getting its ass kicked. It's not surprising that physical illness inhibits your ability … Continue reading 5 truths of a sick mom.