When bad things happen, pay attention to who shows up.

There is a famous Mr. Rogers quote that has always stuck in my head. When discussing scary events with his mother she advised him to “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” This quote has been running through my mind since my kids and I experienced a serious car accident … Continue reading When bad things happen, pay attention to who shows up.

Priviledge requires listening.

I am privileged. As a white, straight, middle class Midwestern woman I have not had to fight to gain access to my rights or many of the opportunities that I have accessed. Honestly, I have no idea what it is like to be discriminated against based on factors far beyond my control. This is my … Continue reading Priviledge requires listening.

Bandwagon feminism can make you a hypocrite.

Making fun of a a woman for her fashion choice is not feminism. Let's start out with some basics. Definitions are important because in many situations definitions are tailored to fit the needs of the agenda being pushed. Feminism as defined by Merriam-Webster:1: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes 2: … Continue reading Bandwagon feminism can make you a hypocrite.

Forget the flowers… I’d rather be a cactus. Analyzing the flawed system of recognizing nursing skill.

The idea of being recognized for performing a job above the level of the expected competencies is relatively common. In the general business world, it seems as if any Joe Schmoe can sharpen a pencil and end up with an extra framed certificate for the wall and a congratulatory slap on the back. In the … Continue reading Forget the flowers… I’d rather be a cactus. Analyzing the flawed system of recognizing nursing skill.

As an inpatient psychiatric nurse, I’m glad you’re here.

Today was the day. The day you felt the overwhelming urge to be done with this life. Suicide felt like the right decision. As a relief from pain you have been desperately trying to escape. There was a flaw in your plan. Fear, family, friends or fate caused a pause in the plan you were … Continue reading As an inpatient psychiatric nurse, I’m glad you’re here.

Dear Perfect Comment Section Mom, STFU. Sincerely, everyone else on the planet.

I am sure that everyone has read her comments. The mom in the comment section of an article, news story, or personal status who decides that her opinion is so incredibly important that everyone must not only be subjected to reading it but must also agree with her. She clearly states that all her ducks … Continue reading Dear Perfect Comment Section Mom, STFU. Sincerely, everyone else on the planet.

I think Santa delivers germs: Sick kids as a holiday tradition.

Christmas tree, presents, cookies, vomit, boogers, and fevers. All of these things describe holiday traditions in our home. Since having children we have not experienced a holiday season without a gross illness sweeping through our household. It’s as if my family’s immune system takes a holiday and good old Santa brings the germs. I picture … Continue reading I think Santa delivers germs: Sick kids as a holiday tradition.

Jeff the cat, provider of love, laughs, and teacher of empathy.

Jeff in his designated spot with his designated best human. Jeff is one of those accidental cats. He just kind of appeared on our little farm and decided we were his home. He was tiny, adorable, and the kids found him first... and named him Jeffery Albert Batman, Jeff for short. He wasn't going anywhere. … Continue reading Jeff the cat, provider of love, laughs, and teacher of empathy.